Love

Love...

This is probably a very common topic and many people probably feel this same way about it... Apologies in advance. Considering i was never a romantic this self confession seems very unlikely of me.

Why is it so difficult? when we were growing up we thought we'll all find the perfect man and settle down.. most importantly we will fall in LOVE...the story book love...  like what we saw in the movies, tv shows and even secretly wishing for that fairy tale moment. We never admitted to this. we pretended they were silly and immature.

Then as you grow up you realize love, comes in different forms, lots of obligations, heart ache, responsibilities and a whole bunch of unwanted excess baggage...but also brings joy at your most difficult hour...

Love at times will make you give your all to someone and that person will still let you down. Sometimes there are people willing to give you their all but you just don't want them.... Now it all makes sense, sometimes love is also about the forbidden fruit... we want the people who don't want us... you know they are bad for you, you know they will cause nothing but heartache and we don't want to be with the people who want us... wow Eve really bit into that apple huh?

 
Does love mean you being unhappy and still being with a person whom you love? does love mean you walk away from that person and go looking for the ;right' kind of love which will treat you right and make you happy? Will we find love like that? can we have several 'loves' in our lives or is its just one big love and the rest are just teasers? Sometimes we often ask these questions and are afraid to ask the ones we love these questions, afraid that they may walk away from us and we are then left 'loveless'. There are many instances where love will only bring you pain. isn't that just ironic since love should technically bring you happiness and joy? Sometimes if there was no love involved then there would be no unhappiness...

So what do we do? we dream about the story book romancish love and continue dreaming and having our expectations dashed or do we just dont love at all. So then there are no hopes being dashed or tears or drama etc.? Or do we sacrifice all that for the momentary happiness of being in love and let those happy memories overcome the sad memories forever?

is it all worth it? after going through a period of being with the love of my life i now realize that happens once. you really fall in love once but that does not mean you cant love anyone else, but that great love or romance happens once. its sad but true. and you will come to that point of settling when you realize you cannot no longer be with the love of your life. and he will continue to be The One even when he is no longer with you. the greatest love is the one that you let go.